F*ck It, We Soft Friday: I Choose Me

Tomorrow I have a Mother’s Day-themed pop-up shop—and for the first time in a while, I’ve decided to do it solo. No extra hands, no distractions—just me, my work, and my energy. It’s not because I don’t have support… it’s because I need to become more aware of myself. Of how I move when I’m alone. Of how I feel when there’s no noise, no pressure, no one else’s energy clouding my own.

This is more than a business move. It’s a healing decision.

I’ve dealt with social anxiety for a long time. You’d probably never guess that—people see the girl with a Phat ass and a smile and assume she has it all figured out. But what they don’t see is that I’m still learning, still sorting through confusion, still trying to put the puzzle pieces of life together.

Still trying to find myself—over and over again.

But the difference now? I’m not giving up. I’m no longer waiting for someone else to save me, or for society to give me the green light on what’s “acceptable” for my life. I’m finally choosing me—and it feels good as hell.

I’m excited about this version of me. The one who doesn’t people-please. The one who doesn’t shrink herself for comfort. The one who’s not afraid to admit, “I don’t know exactly where I’m going, but I trust that I’m getting there.”

And yes, even though I always said I didn’t care what people thought—deep down, I kinda did. But today, I don’t. Not enough to let it stop me. Not enough to keep me stuck.

I’m done trying to be tough all the time. I want softness. I want to be in the garden with my hands in the dirt and a book in my lap. I want peace. I want joy. I want longevity. I want to feel good in my body, in my spirit, in my purpose. And I’ve made the decision to live that way—from here on out.

So yeah… f*ck it. We soft now. And I’ve never felt stronger.

Your Turn, Sis:

What’s your soft decision lately?

Drop it in the comments—whether it’s choosing rest over hustle, walking away from something that drained you, or just finally saying “no” without guilt. Let’s celebrate choosing us, out loud.

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If you can make it out to see me tomorrow, definitely stop by. I would love to see you.Just let me know you came from the blog.🤗

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