Fuck It, We’re Soft Friday: Letting Go of the ‘Strong Friend’ Role

You know what? I’m tired of always being the strong one.

The one who listens, holds space, gives advice, checks in, and shows up—even when I’m falling apart inside. I’ve worn the “strong friend” title like armor for so long that I forgot I was allowed to take it off.

And at first? It felt lonely.

It hurt realizing the people I pour into don’t always pour back. That I was constantly checking in on others, while nobody checked in on me. I used to wonder why my friends didn’t show up for me the way I did for them—why they didn’t want to be in the same spaces I invited them into. They just assumed I was always okay. Always strong. But fuck it… we’re soft now.

And I’m still that bitch.

I set the tone. I create the vibe. And if I have to do it alone? So be it. I’ll be soft by myself. I’ll heal by myself. I’ll explore life, show up for myself, and fall deeply in love with the woman I’m becoming. No more waiting around for someone to go with me. No more stalling because I don’t have company.

I’m my own damn company.

We come into this world alone, and we leave it alone—so I’ve decided to stop leaving my cup empty trying to fill everybody else’s. From here on out, I’m paying attention to my own energy. I’m choosing softness, not because I’m weak, but because I’m finally loving me, for real.

Leave a comment if you’ve ever felt this way too—let’s stop carrying this weight in silence. You’re not alone anymore.