Fuck It, We’re Soft Fridays Loving People and Letting Go Anyway

One thing I’ve been learning lately is that sometimes you have to move forward without the people you thought you’d be doing life with.

And honestly, that’s been a hard pill for me to swallow.

There are people I still love deeply. People I still respect. People I genuinely want the best for. There was never any hate, no major fallout, and no bad blood. Somehow, over time, life happened, priorities changed, communication faded, and our relationships simply aren’t what they used to be.

For a long time, I fought the good fight.

I checked in.

I reached out.

I tried to fix things.

I tried to keep everyone together.

I tried to be understanding.

And eventually, I had to accept something that was painful but necessary.

You can’t force connection.

No matter how much history you have with someone, relationships require effort from both people. Love cannot survive on one person’s shoulders alone.

That realization hurt because I truly envisioned some of these people being part of my future. I thought we’d celebrate milestones together, support one another through life’s ups and downs, and continue growing together.

But sometimes people are only meant to walk with you for a season.

And that doesn’t make them bad people.

It doesn’t erase the memories.

It doesn’t erase the love.

It simply means that life is taking each of you in different directions.

I’ve learned that letting go doesn’t always look like anger. Sometimes letting go looks like love. Sometimes it looks like praying for people from a distance. Sometimes it looks like wishing them well while choosing to focus on the life God has placed in front of you.

And right now, my focus is me and my baby.

I’m done abandoning myself to make other people comfortable.

I’m done people pleasing.

I’m done chasing relationships that require me to beg for what should come naturally.

That doesn’t mean my heart has hardened.

It just means I’m learning to pour into the people who pour into me and to pour back into myself too.

Growing up also means accepting that not everyone who started the journey with you will finish it with you.

And that’s okay.

To anyone reading this who has been grieving friendships, family relationships, or connections that just aren’t the same anymore, I want you to know this:

You can love people and still let them go.

You can wish people well and still move forward.

You can carry gratitude for the memories and still choose yourself.

Sometimes choosing yourself isn’t selfish.

Sometimes it’s healing.

And maybe that’s what this season is really about.

Healing.

With love,

Samm

Baddie Reminder: Stop shrinking yourself to keep relationships alive. The people who are meant for you won’t require you to abandon yourself to keep them.

Have you ever had to love someone from a distance or move forward without people you thought would always be in your life?

If you’re comfortable sharing, I’d love to hear from you. Leave a comment below and let me know what this season of life has been teaching you.

And if this message resonated with you, share it with another woman who may need the reminder that choosing herself is not selfish.

We’re healing over here, one soft Friday at a time. 💕